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Hello 2021, but let’s recap 2020.
Want to live your best life, but scared to follow your dreams? We all fear the unknown; read how I made small changes and how you can too.
2020 was a year that no one was expecting. I brought in the year with my to-do list of things to start and goals from the previous year I wanted to complete. Each year on the top of my list was to lose weight. This time I was doing it for good and sticking to my guns. I love hiking, so I decided to join a group from the app Meet Up. I met a wonderful group of like-minded people and went out on my first hike in February. What I did not know, it would be the last time I would be in a group setting. Talking closely with people without wearing a mask and not being afraid to get COVID.
March is when it went downhill. I was bound to my home; my leisure office became my new work from the home office. My daughter’s school closed; our living room became her new classroom. We did not know it would be the last time we would see our friends from work and classmates. Everyone went into a panic; the store shelves were left empty. I never would have thought toilet tissue would be scarce to find. I had to do my shopping online and now was getting food and cleaning supplies delivered to me. We did not know what to expect moving forward. It felt like we were in an apocalyptic movie.
My job went from me going on the road visiting offices, having one on one conversations: to me becoming a telemarketer. This was hard for me, I enjoyed talking to people in person and having that close connection. During the first few months of quarantine, businesses were closed. I had to keep my mind busy because I was secretly losing it. I was becoming depressed; I kept on a brave face for my family. I decided to take some online classes in my field to brush up my skills and keep my brain distracted from what was going on. It worked; I took some great courses and updated my resume with new certifications earned.
Getting Out and Living
I had to make a plan of what I wanted to do this year. Winter gloom turned into Spring, and finally, by Summer there was a light at the end of the tunnel. Businesses were slowly opening. I hiked just about every day and walked my neighborhood. It was time for a new change of scenery.
Unfortunately for me, my contract at work was ending, and I would be jobless at the end of the year. I did not stress about it. For some strange reason, I felt things would be okay. Maybe it was from all the motivational books I was reading. I was going to think about myself for the first time and enjoy my summer with my family.
My summer turned out to be great. I started a list of places I wanted to visit. We explored some beautiful gardens I had never been to. I took a road trip to Virginia, played mini golf for the first time, visited Mercer Museum and Fonthill Castle, we got out to so many new places that I can’t wait to share with you in my upcoming blogs. We hiked new trails, I got out and started walking my dog more and we started cooking at home, instead of ordering out.
I headed down to Asbury Park Beach alone one evening. I haven’t been since I was a little girl. They did a great job rebuilding the boardwalk and cleaning the area. I got a chance to see some amazing artwork. I stopped stressing and started living. With that, my husband and I lost over 50 pounds each. We had a complete transformation during this pandemic.
My new motto, “Live Life!” We followed all the guidelines to keep us safe from Covid. We were socially distanced, always kept sanitizer with us. I purchased reserved tickets for outings, and most importantly, we always wore our masks. I tested for Covid; my test was negative. I used precautions and got over my fears. I knew if I were safe and following the guidelines, we would be fine.
Getting My Motivation Back
I looked over at my Vision Board and added more things to my list. I did accomplish some things, but I wanted more. This time I was sticking to it. I took more classes online. This time it would be on what I wanted to do. Not what I thought I should do to make others happy. I thought about my career; what was my true passion. I love marketing and photography. I thought it was far-fetched; because I did not have the experience or wasn’t good enough. Again, there was “fear” holding me back.
To become better at what I wanted to accomplish, I needed to be a student again. Take classes, do more reading, get criticized. Stepping out of my comfort zone and shaking things up. I am so happy I did. We let fear disable us. We let fear make the decision for dreams we want to follow. I went back and read more motivational books, follow inspiring people on social media, and listened to some Podcasts. I got my motivation back; I keep my Vision Board next to me. I have two boards now. They both are staring at me, and I am staring back at it.
Letting Go of Fear
We went skydiving at Skydive Sussex in New Jersey! It was the most exciting adventure I can say that I have ever experienced. My husband always wanted to jump out of an airplane. I told him he was crazy every time he suggested it. I told him I did not want to do it because that is not something I wanted to do. It was not safe, and again, he was crazy. I made up a different excuse every time he asked me. In reality, I was SCARED!
After talking to him and telling him my true reason for not wanting to go. I started looking at reviews and wanted to see if this was something, I would change my mind about. I decided to take the plunge and join him at skydiving. I am glad I did it because I have another jump booked for this Spring.
Live Your Best Life
I wanted to start living my best life; although the world was going through a tough time, I had to find the positive out of all this. I had to put myself first. I had to do things I loved. I had to make some tough decisions that would be hard. Set small goals for yourself; when you set big goals, they became harder to complete. Set a schedule for yourself and follow through with them. Stay motivated by reading and following encouraging people. Living your best life means; creating the life you want. Do not worry what others will say. Some people can be Debbie Downers, you may feel discouraged. When someone talks down to you or shows no support, they may want you to remain stuck along with them.
These are all things that we can do, right now, regardless of our own individual circumstances. And if you do all of these, you will soon begin to feel that you are living your best life!
Happy New You!